When Your Brain Becomes a Junk Drawer

You know that everything drawer in your kitchen? The one where all the charging cables live in a hopeless tangle? You need your phone charger, so you grab what looks like the right cord, but it's somehow twisted around three other cables, and the harder you pull, the worse it gets.

That's what it feels like when your mind gets stuck.

Last week, I got an message from someone who described it perfectly: "I feel like I'm drowning in my own thoughts. I can't make decisions. I can't see my way forward. Every time I try to think my way out, I just create more confusion."

I know this feeling intimately.

When Everything Falls Apart

For years, I looked successful on paper—working inside companies like Google and LinkedIn, building products that reached millions. But underneath, I felt trapped. Stuck in my head, overwhelmed by thoughts that just kept spinning.

It took everything falling apart at once to push me toward something different. In 2022, within ten days, I had a miscarriage, got so seriously sick that I couldn’t work, and had a painful family break. I was exhausted and running out of energy to keep trying to think my way out of the mess.

That's when desperation pushed me to try something I'd never considered: actually paying attention to what was happening inside my whole being instead of trying to think my way out of it. Learning to have real conversations with the parts of myself I'd been fighting.

And then—this was the real breakthrough—I learned to take those insights and turn them into actual changes in my daily life through simple symbols and small actions that somehow started shifting everything.

The Method That Actually Works

What I discovered was a practical method for working with your whole self—not just your thinking mind, but your body and instincts too.

Three simple steps:

Name it: Get those swirling thoughts out of your head and onto something you can actually work with. Sticky notes, index cards, napkins—whatever's handy. Transform mental chaos into concrete pieces you can see and move around.

Meet it: Instead of fighting your blocks and resistance, learn to have conversations with them. Discover that what feels like your biggest problem is often trying to protect something important.

Seed it: Take the wisdom from those conversations and turn it into small actions in the physical world that grow into real change.

Each step is simple enough to do in your kitchen. Together, they actually work: a way to get unstuck without having to think your way out.

Why This Works When Other Things Don't

It doesn't require you to think your way out. Instead, it works with how your brain actually handles information—using simple visual methods, physical movement, and listening to your gut instead of fighting it.

It doesn't fight the stuck parts. It works with them. Most of our blocks are trying to protect something important. When you stop battling them and start listening, they stop being problems and start being useful.

It bridges the gap between understanding and doing something about it. This method turns insights into actual changes you can see.

From Stuck to Clear

The method worked. Within months of that dark winter, I was living a life I could barely imagine, warm on the beach in Mexico. Even more surprises awaited me - but I’ll let you read the book to find out more. (Spoilers, darling!)

The stuckness still comes sometimes—it's part of being human. But now I have tools that work. I know how to turn mental cable tangles into clear next steps.

An Invitation

I've been sharing these methods for the past few years, watching people break free from their own mental tangles, sometimes in a single afternoon. The feedback has been remarkable: "I finally feel like I can breathe again." "I haven't felt this clear in years." "I actually know what to do next."

That's why I wrote Get Unstuck: A Practical Guide to Transforming Mental Quicksand into Clear Action. Not because I have all the answers, but because I want to share tools that actually work.

If you're reading this and recognizing yourself in the mental cable tangle, in the spinning thoughts, in the feeling of being trapped in your own head—you're not broken. You're not alone. And you don't have to stay stuck.

There are tools that actually work.